Lex

It seems that the problems that crop up in relation to having a toddler and dog(s) never end! You may have read the saga of Lucy and my baby that led to Lucy being relocated to my dad's house. She is very happy there and we have worked out a good system so that she is still "my dog." What ultimately led me to relocating her was that her stress levels were so high, she became physically ill. I didn't think I had to worry about Lex since he has been in love with my daughter from the day we brought her home. Apparently, things change........

Now that my daughter is a full-fledged toddler, she does things that may seem odd to a dog. Her movement is unsteady, her mood is ever changing, she wants up, she wants down. She can climb and she can throw! She also enjoys chase games and "sharing" her food. Lex has taken most things in stride. He never stressed over crying or crawling or even toy throwing. What really gets him though is when Elsie starts to follow him around. It is quite harmless really. She wants to see him, she walks up to him and he licks her and she laughs and then he gets up because he is a gentleman and moves aside to let her pass. Except she doesn't want to pass him. She wants to hang out with him. So when he walks away, she follows him. Then he gets that stressed look on his face like "what is happening?" and she thinks they are playing a a great game and is just laughing, following him around. She isn't grabbing him or actually touching him at all. My dilemma starts in how to actually deal with this.

I can't let it just go, I can see that Lex needs me to intervene since this freaks him out. When I stop her physically or verbally, she throws a mini tantrum and then my sensitive dog high-tails it to his crate as if it were all his fault! If I try to re-direct him to our newly made safe-zone, he seems confused and thinks he is being banished/punished. If I get treats out to reiterate to him that he is not being punished, he doesn't seem to make the connection and simply takes the treats and either continues to look stressed OR goes into training mode and becomes an intense obsessive border collie that had no recollection that a toddler was chasing him!

I will say, we have made a little bit of progress. My goal is that when he feels insecure, that he seeks out the "safe-zone" on his own without prompting, and comes back when he wants to. The "safe-zone" is a baby gate in our bedroom doorway. In the bedroom is his open crate. The progress I have made in the last 48 hours is that he is now coming out of the room without prompting, but I still have to tell him to go over the gate when I see he is getting stressed. He seems to have chosen the spot behind the rocking chair in Elsie's room as his second "crate" which isn't what I want, since I am not going to gate my daughter out of her room. At least he is choosing to leave completely rather than just walking in circles and then I can intervene and redirect the baby.

It makes me a bit sad. Here I was naively thinking my toddler and dog were the best of friends, but in reality I don't think it is possible for a dog and toddler to be friends! To co-exist, yes, but to actually have a relationship in which both parties benefit, no. I have successfully taught her to be gentle, to not share her food, to not throw things, to be sweet to him and now I have to teach her to basically ignore him. This will not be an easy task! I will not re-home Lex. With Lucy, the cards just fell into place and her issue was much more severe. It is times like these that I think if I were not a dog trainer, I wouldn't even notice that he was displaying stress signals. How wonderful it must be to be ignorant of such things! Thankfully I am aware though, because I can prevent a potential bite to my child and keep my dog happy. 

New Dog/Puppy

It doesn't matter if you are bringing home a brand new puppy or an adult dog, there are things that you will need to buy! I have to say that I find shopping for pet supplies super fun and unfortunately in the past, slightly addicting. However, buying baby supplies is even more fun and addicting so I guess I traded a habit for a habit!

The following is a general list that applies to every breed, size or age of dog in respect to the supplies you will need;
1. High quality food (read my post titled "Feeding your Dog" for more info on choosing a food).
2. 1 food dish (stainless steal or ceramic as plastic can harbor bacteria and be chewed).
3. 1 water dish of same material, yet slightly larger.
4. Crate (see "Crate Training" for more info on choosing a crate and using one properly).
5. Toys (choose only a few toys of various textures. I prefer a kong toy, a rope, a high quality plush and a ball to start with).
6. Bones/chews (see post "Bones" for more info).
7. Basic nylon or leather collar and 4 foot leash (hold off on pulling devices or read "Does your Dog Pull?").
8. Stain remover (you will need this no matter what! I love Simple Solution brand by far over the others).
9. ID tag for collar.
10. High quality shampoo like earth bath.

There are some things you can hold off on for a while or all together;
1. Poop bags: if you live in an apartment, this may be essential or you may find that you can use accumulated grocery bags or grab a few bags every time you pass a public dispenser.
2. Pooper scooper: really only helpful if you have a large yard and don't want to use a shovel or bags to pick-up.
3. Place mats for under food: I have never found these helpful, but my dogs aren't super messy.
4. Bed: only get a dog bed for the crate or outside the crate if you dog is not a chewer and is OVER a year old. Puppies will destroy beds and not only will you lose money, you could have a sick pup on your hands if he digests any stuffing and possibly needs an expensive surgery.
5. Treats: get treats once you have committed to training so you aren't doling them out for "free." (see blog post "rewards" for ideas of proper treats).
6. Food bins: super helpful, they are not a must-have and are spendy. I have two myself, and love them! 
7. Flexi-leash: a lot of owners see these extendable leashes as must-haves, but honestly, they teach dogs to pull and are super dangerous in the hands of untrained dogs and untrained owners. I only use mine in open space areas when I cannot let my dogs loose and they need more freedom than a 4 foot lead allows.
8. Brush and nail trimmers: while you will need these later, most puppies don't start shedding till they get their adult coat and some owners may want to get the pup or dog professionally groomed and never deal with it at home. I do advise all owners to pet a new pup, put fingers in her mouth, touch her paws, play with her ears softly and generally desensitize her to grooming procedures.
9. Flea treatment: these have been marketed to us as preventatives but really should be used as treatments as we are now creating super bugs that are immune to the chemicals in these products due to consumer over-use.
10. Pens or gates: buy if needed for potty training and confinement.

You will want to make sure that you purchase all these things BEFORE you bring your new pet home because it is super stressful for a new dog to be drug into a pet store while you attempt to shop! Have the crate set-up in your main living space or bedroom (if you only bought one crate, you will probably be moving it back and forth for a while from living room to bedroom at night). Have the water bowl down where you would like it be and have all the gear put away and have a few toys out for your new friend.

For a new puppy: it is advisable to bring your pup straight home from the breeder/shelter/wherever and not make any stops to visit doting friends. Place your puppy in your backyard or front yard to eliminate before going inside then give him a tour of the house. Let him sniff his new home, but be close behind. If you have a slightly older puppy, you will probably want to have him on leash so he doesn't go tearing off into the house. Once he has explored his new digs you should assess his activity level. Does he need a nap? Is he frisky and wanting to play? Did he eat already today? Oblige with whatever he needs, but be sure to not leave him loose and make sure you start the crate training right away!

For a new dog: bring your new dog straight home as well, however, your new dog will have had all his shots and may want a little walk around the block to pee and get acquainted with new smells (provided the dog is not a fearful one). Once you bring your new dog in (on leash), let him explore the place and evaluate his needs. Start the crate training right away and don't be lax on your house rules because this is his first day. If you don't want him on the couch and he jumps on it, be sure to lure him off of it right away. If he starts going through the bathroom garbage, shut the door and redirect him to his toys. If he starts destroying your backyard, bring him in and make a mental note what you need to do to dog-proof your yard.

The next few days you will need to go about business as usual. I don't recommend anyone take excess time off when getting a new pet because we don't want to set-up any separation anxiety. After the first few days, consider starting training with a trainer either in your home or via a group class. If you are local (in the SF Bay Area), check out the training I offer, located on the "training" page.

Hyperactivity

 Whether it be breed or age, some dogs just naturally have more energy than others. How should an owner deal with a hyperactive dog?

- Exercise: of course, all dogs need exercise, especially a hyperactive dog. Play fetch or tug in the house or yard, go on walks or hikes and if your dog is friendly and has a decent recall, take him/her to the dog park. Just being around other dogs and humans can help reduce stress and anxiety which may be contributing to the hyperactivity. Take up a dog sport (agility, flyball, herding). Unique tip: Have your dog wear a backpack on walks with a little bit of weight in it (water bottles) to exert extra energy.

- Leadership: dogs with strong leaders are more likely to calm down on command and be less anxious knowing you have everything under control.

- Training: training your dog to do basic commands can help divert some hyper energy. Have your dog do doggie push-ups, practice the “watch” command or teach your dog some fun tricks. Reinforce calm behavior (such as sleepy eyes, lying down, yawning, stretching) by clicking and treating. Be sure not to reinforce hyper behavior by yelling or nagging at a dog that barks, jumps or pulls. Ignore the behavior and set out to train an alternate behavior or a counter-command. Also remember distance is your friend if you have a dog that gets charged up when greeting another dog or person, find the distance where your dog is calm (reward at that point) and slowly get closer. If your dog is calm, the reward is he gets to greet the dog or person.

- Your Behavior: you affect your dog’s behavior. Move slowly and talk quietly. Give clear and confident directions. Touch your dog with long slow pets and avoid choppy rough pets that tend to wind up dogs. Tension on the leash can also create tension in your dog. Look into walking tools if you are having trouble with a pulling dog that doesn’t respond to traditional training methods for heel.

- Doggie Massage: a calm massage can be a great technique to calm a hyper dog. Rub a dog gently where he or she likes best; ears, jaw, thigh, back, belly etc. To make this more relaxing, you can do this technique on a dog bed and click and treat for signs of relaxation (drooping eyelids, lying down, stretching, being quiet).

- Stimulus: provide safe bones (bully sticks, knuckle bones, compressed rawhide) and interactive toys for dogs that get hyper from lack of attention or boredom when at home. Rotate toys to ensure dog doesn’t get bored. Try the tug-a-jug, maze-a-ball, hide-a-squirrel or stuff a kong with my favorite recipe.

- Supplements and treats: when purchasing training treats, buy the treats with the claims of “calming.” You might as well try them, just in case they help! There are several supplements that do work for calming such as the “Good dog” water additive, DAP pheromone plug in and Pet Naturals of Vermont Calming Bites. All are completely natural and safe for your dog.

- Aromatherapy and Acupuncture: feeling adventurous? A handful of licensed veterinarians in our area offer aromatherapy and acupuncture as well as chiropractics. I have seen some fantastic results, however, they are always short lived.

Recalls

Teaching your dog to come when called is a must for all dog owners! Below is a guide to get you started on teaching and sustaining a great recall.

1. Find something your dog really likes to use as a reward. I prefer a tug toy, but we can use food or other toys as well.
2. Prepare to practice a ton! Start by simply going a few feet away from your dog and progress to greater distances and more distractions.
3. Always reward your dog for coming to you, even if this means carrying around treats or that special toy with you.
4. Practice restrained recalls, casual in the house recalls and “real-life” situation recalls.
5. Use a long line if necessary to practice in large environments or those without fencing.

The following are “rules” to abide by during and after the process of teaching your dog to come on cue.

1. Never call you dog to do something he finds negative (such as nail trimming or bath time).
2. Never call your dog during the training process when you think it is unlikely he will come.
3. Don’t punish a dog for coming to you later than you wanted or you will send the message that coming to you=punishment.
4. 2 chances for listening. After you have given your dog 2 shots to come to you either go get the dog or try any of the below options;
a. Run: dogs like to chase, so run away and get your dog to chase you.
b. Hide: dogs are inquisitive, if you disappear he may learn to keep a closer tab on you in the future (only do this if it is in an enclosed, safe area).
c. Sit on the ground: many times dogs want to see why you are sitting on the ground and will come over to check it out.
5. Don’t chase your dog unless there is a drag line attached and there is a high probability of you cornering your dog or stepping on the drag line. Most dogs when chased, will run and humans are not faster than dogs.
6. Don’t call your dog and then proceed to do nothing or your dog will learn to ignore you.

Crate Training

Just recently I met a new client with an 8 week old puppy that had questions about potty training. It seems they were misinformed that this puppy they had just received was "completely" potty trained and the following Monday they left for work for 9 hours and left him with a potty pad in the kitchen with free rein of their house. They were disappointed and confused to find messes every where upon returning home and thankfully reached out to a trainer (me) to help them.

After explaining to them that an 8 week old puppy can no way be completely potty trained at that age and that leaving him to roam the house was probably not the best idea, I started telling them about my sure-fire way of potty training, which involves crate training and received shock from them as to why I would recommend such a torturous thing!

Dogs don't think being in a crate is torture. In fact, research shows that dogs are den animals and really enjoy the comfort of a crate. Think of a crate as your dog's private relaxation place where he can go to get some R&R when the house is too busy, when guests are over around stressful holidays or a safe place to sleep at night.

Crates have so many positive functions that I hope more people will crate train their puppies and dogs.

Puppies:

- Puppies will not potty in their den, therefore a crate is a great way to potty train a puppy. The crate must not be too large for the puppy to potty in the back and lay in the front though. Large enough for the pup to turn around and lay stretched out.

- Crates are a safe place to put the pup when you are busy and can't tend to him (further avoiding accidents and chewing things in the house).

- Many of my clients also use the crate as a time-out zone when puppy has done something wrong and needs some time to calm down.

- Pups should sleep in the crate at night to ensure no midnight romping, peeing or snacking when you are sleeping!

- In addition to a crate, some owners who will be gone for too long, will attach a pen to the crate so the pup has a potty spot if they are gone for over the length of time the pup can hold it.

Dogs:

- For a fully trained dog, an open crate is a place of refuge during times of stress (when children are visiting, when another dog is visiting, changes in lifestyle etc).

- As per my previous post, crates are also great ways to transport a dog in the car.

- If a dog is crate trained, there will be less stress involved for air travel, boarding at the vet or boarding facility and pet sitters are very appreciative to owners that crate trained their dogs!

- If your dog ever has surgery and is prescribed cage rest, there won't be stress associated with crating a dog that is unfamiliar with it.

- Visiting a friend or going to a hotel? Friends, family and hotel owners appreciate crate trained dogs that will not be destroying rooms or getting into things when their owner is away!

- Thinking about taking up a dog sport in the future? When it isn't your dog's turn, they must be crated.

Dogs can be crate trained at any age, it is just easier in puppyhood and has more applications if started sooner. If you would like more information, check out this link: http://www.humanesociety.org/animals/dogs/tips/crate_training.html